Labels: pieces of me
I think there comes a time in your social development where you take a look at yourself and take stock of the person you've become. Are you the person you thought you would be at this point in your life? Have you achieved the goals you had set for yourself earlier in life?
There is one question, I believe, which a lot of us tend to forget to ask (or won't ask). That question is: "Are these the friends I thought I would have?" And the infinitely harder to ask and even harder to answer:
"Are these the kind of friends that I SHOULD have?"
When do you cut the ties to friends that are no longer the people you befriended? They may not have done anything to you directly, but they no longer possess those qualities that engendered your friendship all those years ago. You still communicate with them on a semi-regular basis. Holidays, birthdays, a friends party. But they're just not that person you once knew.
Worse yet is when these friends bring their particular kind of drama into your life. Whether purposefully by calling to spill their soul to you, or inadvertently by drawing you into it simply by being in proximity to you. At what point do you cut the emotional ties? When is it disloyalty, and when is it simply preserving your own sanity? I'm sure a lot of people have their own set of personal heartbreaks. Mine is no exception to the rule that friendship does not last forever. (not you Eloise :) -I had my head(s), hands, and feet in a really healthy friendship 2 years ago. And after just 3 months, i became aware of the symptoms. One of the things i enjoy doing is evaluating people and their personalities. Yes, i am an observer of human behaviour and reactions - although i never seem the sort. That relationship went dow the drain.On the brightside, i think maturity comes with tragidies in life. I have a more... arguable perspective of the interactions around me. Less gullable, more ruthless. I tend to be a bit more pragmatic than most people and it can sometimes come off that way. But, if you have someone in your life that does nothing but bring chaos and drama into your life, what choice do you have, really?